He Texted Me First This Morning
How Taking a Communication Break Made My Relationship Stronger
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My ex would text me “Good Morning” every single morning. Three years into our relationship, it was an expectation I held and no longer a pleasant reminder that he thought of me first thing in the morning. He texted me for another three years until we finally called it quits. He recently admitted that the “Good Morning” text had become a duty midway through our relationship and ceased being something he did because he wanted to. It had become an obligation for him.
My current boyfriend is wonderful. But he generally does not text me “Good Morning”. In fact, he doesn’t often text me first at all. I am a constant communicator and I find myself sharing more often over text than he does. At first, it bothered me and I worried he wasn’t interested. But I always try and remind myself of something he said to me before we were official. He had texted me on a weekend when he was out of town visiting family and I was thrilled he had thought of me. But I was also surprised that he had. After flirty texting, I jokingly said I thought he liked me. He responded with, “Well, I don’t generally text people I don’t like on the weekend, much less while I am vacationing.” This statement sits in the back of my mind and I use it to remember that while he isn’t much for chit-chat, especially via text, he never fails to reach out in some way, letting me know he cares.
On the other hand, I can easily send five messages before he’s even out of bed in the morning. Granted, I am up much earlier for work than he is, but I always have so much to say and share… curious for a writer, right? But I try and control my enthusiasm to share every single moment of my day for a phone conversation or in person. But that “Good Morning” text? It is an expectation in a relationship, right?
Texting is a Method of Communication, Not an Expectation for it
The first couple months of our official relationship I wanted that daily text. I thought it meant he thinks of me first thing and wants to tell me, to wish me good morning. To me, it meant he liked me and without it I constantly questioned his feelings. So I started sending the text, seeking a response. I suppose I was a…
