The key to finding a partner who will love and except you as you are is to find a partner who appreciates who you are. Dating someone who is looking for qualities within you that you don’t possess is a quick way to end up alone and unhappy. Trying to pretend you have certain qualities that you don’t is also a one way ticket to unhappiness. However, dating someone who sees who you are, knows what your are capable of , and encourages you to be the best version of yourself.
I have been lucky to have two supportive relationships. However, it is my current relationship that has really taught me how important a cheerleader in your corner. My most favorite thing about my partner is how much he encourages and supports me in anything I think to do. Including things I choose to do that he might not agree with. He is always there to push me and encourage me in ways I have never experienced before. Through this relationship, I have learned just how valuable this trait is in a partner.
Your partner should enhance your life
In a healthy relationship your partner should contribute to your life. Your life cannot revolve around them or theirs around you. Rather, the two of you should add something to the other’s lives that enhances it. This could come in many forms. Perhaps your partner brings laughter, ease, support or understanding. For myself, growing up with parents that rarely told me they were proud of me, a partner who encourages me and believes in me is very important.
The trick is to find what you need in your life that a partner can provide and focus on potential suitors who can provide that. If you know you need laughter in your life, then a partner who is overly serious and rarely laughs may not work for you. Instead of bringing that laughter to enhance your life, you will be missing that thing you truly need to be happy. Without that, you and your partner will be missing the glue that really bonds the relationship. But if you can find it, you will find yourself incredibly happy and you and your partner will find your relationship is more fulfilling.