And how you can follow it for a healthier relationship.
So many articles make relationships out to be these complicated things that need countless tips and tricks to make them work. There are millions of words written on communication, sex, fighting, loving, and all the other things that go along with relationships. But at the end of the day, the bottom line is, you must always choose your partner.
Now, this isn’t a novel idea. If you have seen the new Netflix show Bridgerton, the entire show focuses on the basic relationship advice we all already know. However, even in the show, the main characters have a tough time following…
It might be time to get away from the “advice” and actually experience your relationship
I am an avid reader of relationship advice. If I have an issue, concern, or want reassurance, I consult the World Wide Web and the googly machine to tell me exactly what I need to know. I then often take what I read, what I have experienced it and I write my own relationship advice articles, like this one. Then you, my cherished reader, comment on my story and tell me how it resonated with you or helped you in some way — which I love.
The problem with relationship advice articles is the fact that none of them are…
How family examples affect our own experiences
I have always said my parents are the two most in love people you’ll ever see. And until recently I truly believed that. I believed that because they do everything together. They work together, live life together, only do things with each other and they rarely have friends they aren’t both friends with.
My sisters and I regularly say if my mom passes before my dad, my dad would find it hard to keep going with life. I thought that was romantic. The whole “she’s-the-love-of-my-life-and-I-can’t-live-without-her” thing.
I wanted that, craved that kind of all-encompassing love that borders on obsession. The…
And other key traits to look for in a partner
The key to finding a partner who will love and except you as you are is to find a partner who appreciates who you are. Dating someone who is looking for qualities within you that you don’t possess is a quick way to end up alone and unhappy. Trying to pretend you have certain qualities that you don’t is also a one way ticket to unhappiness. However, dating someone who sees who you are, knows what your are capable of , and encourages you to be the best version of yourself.
I have been lucky to have two supportive relationships…
It can be boiled down to one thing and there is one way to begin to fix it
With all of the hate, tension, and insults swirling around the internet lately, I am finding it progressively more challenging to make it through a week without feeling completely torn down by the comments and posts I am seeing. I do not engage in these back and forth wars, but I do read some of them, and the enormity of the animosity is very disheartening. But one thing I see frequently is this “white privilege” insult being hurled. So I thought about this, and I came to a conclusion. White privilege is, in essence, one thing — one single thing…
Even if your partner doesn’t say it back
Around four or five months into my relationship with my partner, I knew I loved him. I scoured the internet for articles that would tell me whether he loved me as well. I searched for the right “time” to say it, the right way to say it and who should say it first. I learned that there is a fear about being the first person to say “I love you.” By saying it, you are putting your heart on the line and leaving yourself vulnerable to rejection. However, when you truly feel it, it wants to burst out of your…
How to overcome only thinking of “you” and being reactive in relationships
When we think about our relationship or the type of relationship we want to be in, we spend an awful lot of time on how we want to be treated, how we think our partner should speak to us, and how we want our partner to respond to our moods and our complaints. But in the midst of all this thinking, we rarely stop to take a moment to think of how we are going to treat our partner.
It was in the process of thinking about all the ways I didn’t like how my boyfriend was handling a situation…
What it is, how it manifests and how you can overcome it.
Hello, My name is Jennifer and I have relationship anxiety and I am here to work it out. Just kidding. If only everything could be as easy as going to a support group! Unfortunately, everything isn’t. Especially relationship anxiety. But it does not have to be insurmountable if we can recognize the signs and learn how to overcome them.
Relationship anxiety is not something I thought I had or was suffering from. Instead, I chalked it up to an overactive imagination and a desperate need to always have answers. However, the last couple of weeks of my relationship have really…
Three tasks to keep you sane in quarantine
I had never been one to make my bed. Yes, I have heard successful people do it but I believed I sleep better in an unmade bed — or so that was my excuse. But I moved to my very first, completely mine, apartment Feb. 28. I was thrilled and I spent two weeks making it everything I wanted it to be. I bought the expensive French bed linens I always wanted, the furniture and art work I wanted, and I organized everything just the way I wanted. …
Instead — Look for the Good
If you’ve read anything I have written, it is probably fairly clear I border on an anxious attachment style. I question everything and I hear a whole breakup monologue in any silence I receive from my partner. It’s hard work being so darn anxious all the time! But it is harder work to try and break away from it.
However, I have realized that trust is the biggest reason why I have doubts and why I don’t have doubts when I am in relationships. I have a horrible habit of expecting the worst which inevitably means the worst is likely…
